The Bystander Effect: Perception vs Reality in real world violence

As a doorman, I’ve seen more violence and conflict than the average person. In fact, I have a fascination with conflict and how people react to it. But one of the most puzzling and frustrating scenarios for anyone in a ‘combat situation’ is the Bystander Effect.

My definition of the Bystander Effect is: A third party who begins to yell or interfere in some fashion when a professional (law enforcement officer, security professional, or bouncer) is trying to execute a physical restraint in the course of their duty.
Now, the Bystander Effect occurs because:

They are not fully informed:


Having only seen a part of the conflict, the bystander doesn’t know how and why the violence is occurring. They assume that the ‘professional’ is acting excessively against someone who doesn’t deserve it.
They are unfamiliar with violence:

Perhaps the only violence the bystander has seen has been in the movies. They do not know that real world violence is quick, nasty, and uncoordinated at times.

 The violence shocks their system and they automatically pick on the authority figure that is “winning” and “restraining” the combative person.

They place themselves in the shoes of the person:


 People will often place themselves in someone else’s shoes who they can relate to. Bystanders cannot relate to LEO or Security Professionals because they have no formal experience of the job. Therefore, they assume the role (mentally) of the combative person.

They don’t understand resistance:

They have no idea how hard it is to restrain someone who doesn’t want to be restrained. They think that the professional should be able to hold the combative person down with little to no force. They may not realize that the combative person may be much stronger than the professional so harder techniques will have to be employed.

They are misinformed about body dynamics and combative training:

 In order to fully restrain someone, a certain amount of force and pressure has to be applied to the body. This pressure is being applied to STOP the combative person from fighting. Once that has occurred, just enough pressure is applied to hold or take the person into custody. The bystander may think a bouncer or martial artist have special bullet proof moves to keep people in place.

They do not know what the force continuum is:
Again, they have no idea what type of physical response would be used with a combative person. Actively aggressive persons cannot be controlled with light escort or pain compliance techniques.
They think authority figures are bullies: Many bystanders who interfere have problems themselves with authority figures and make the sweeping judgment that all are bullies, toughs, and ego driven monsters. They may have an axe to grind or a past negative experience with one of these professionals.
How do you change the mind of a bystander?

Let me first say that I have 25 years of martial and combative experience behind my belt. I’ve also been involved in over 400 physical confrontations during my 16 years bouncing (from fights to brawls to arrests of aggressive patrons). I am what the average person would call “skilled”.

 However, trying to control or restrain someone who doesn’t want to be is no walk in the park. The fluid nature of combat, including movement, objects, weapons, and other potential hazards on the street, makes easy restraint quite difficult.

Don’t believe me? Just ask a friend to try and not let you hold on to their wrist. They will pull, turn, jab, kick and trip you in order to get their wrist free. They win because they don’t have to play by the same rules as you. You are just trying to hold on while they can do what they please to avoid it. The analogy is touch vs. tackle football. You play touch and they get to play tackle.

Therefore, the type of professionals I mentioned above realize that simple restraints against a non compliant combative person is NOT going to work. They have to change their game to “play tackle” in order to gain control of the subject. This doesn’t mean they hammer on them, only that they have to up the level of force against a non compliant person to gain control over them.

The bystander has to realize that these professions deal with violence on a common and frequent basis. The average citizen gets to walk blindly through their everyday tasks while cops and bouncers are rolling around in alley ways with junkies and criminals. These professionals protect the bystander from the ugly consequence of violence.

If you are a bystander, next time you see a conflict occur between these two groups, take a deep breath and realize that it is more than likely that the person the professional is trying to restrain just committed a crime (commonly assault of another poor bystander). The professionals’ job is often thankless and the bystander effect is like the rubbing salt in the wound of what they do.

I help people. I hate victimization. And I would surely hope some of you would help me if I was in trouble one day because, for the past ten years, my only reward for helping strangers has been that they get to return home safely to their love ones.
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Jiu Jitsu Instruction – Time To Teach

I was recently asked by one of my Face Book friends on any tips I could give him on teaching. It seems he will be tackling his first class as a teacher at the end of the week. It got me thinking of my experiences over the years. I can still remember my first classes and how nervous I was.

What I want to provide is a general outline that new teacher can use to teach their first martial art classes. There are of course a ton of variables involved in presentation and that is what some people are ‘gifted’ and others are ‘average’.

 In my experience, teaching can be a learned skill, refined through time. I have also observed that some people are natural leaders and orators. This goes FAR in the realm of martial arts.
When first taking the journey down the teaching road, you will be nervous. This is natural. Don’t think you are the only one who has felt this way. This is what you can do to prepare for this job.
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1) Prepare an outline: Take note how long your class is and write down the techniques you PLAN on teaching in your class. Always have more than you could possibly teach in a given period of time. This will allow you to fall back if you happen to get through a lot of what you wanted to cover.

2) Keep it simple. While you may love the rubber guard, x guard or some really cool move or combo, keep you lesson plan brutally simple in the beginning. It will keep your students from asking too many questions which you yourself may not know.

3) Don’t teach something you “kinda know” or “saw one time on you tube”. You’ll get crushed right in the middle of the technique and realize you really don’t know it. Your students will suffer for it.

4) Chain you techniques so they make LOGICAL sense to the person learning. Showing a guard break and then flying arm bar right after it will show there is no theme.

 A Theme is important when you are a “white belt” in teaching. As you get more experienced, you can mix and match and make anything make sense. But this takes time!

5) Speak slowly and clearly. Know where your audience is and make sure they can SEE what you are doing. Don’t take for granted that they will get it. Use your verbal skills to further explain what you are doing. Don’t rush. Breathe. When I let my blue belts teach a move for the first time, their voices quiver and they speak too fast.

6) Ask your students “do you have any questions?” It will help you refine your skill.
7) Don’t be afraid to say ” I do not know.” This is alien to many people because they don’t want to appear weak in front of their audience. Let me tell you something: Not all teachers know everything. However, the GOOD/GREAT ones can trouble shoot right away and figure it out. That takes time…lots of time. It won’t come over night.

 Don’t be a robot. Nobody likes listening to a drone with no inflection in his/her voice. Humor and animation goes a long way but this is something you can’t fake.

That is why some people are naturals and others are not. I have seen world champs who couldn’t teach.

9) Be warm and engaging. After you show your techniques, go around and help your students. Make sure you know their names and make your interaction personal. Students will appreciate this.

10) Call them back and show the technique again (and again) if there are problems. When I observe my classes, there are often the same mistakes being done by multiple students. Instead of going around to each one,call them back and show the technique again. It may require you to teach the technique in a DIFFERENT manner. Remember that each person learns differently.

Some visual, some audible, some kinetic. I will often tell my students to totally ignore everything I am showing but one part. I will say “everyone just watch my left leg and what it is doing in this movement.” That way, they focus on a subtle detail and aren’t overwhelmed with a bunch of moving limbs.

11) Advanced: As you get better and spend more time teaching people, you will become flexible. I no longer use a written syllabus when teaching. I go in and just do it. And I love every minute of it. Each class is different. Different students, different dynamics.

 If all my blue belts showed up, I may get crazy and start doing some advanced stuff. My mother always said ” know your audience”! True and dynamic teachers are FUN to learn from. That makes retention better. That also makes students want to come back and learn. It is a wonderful cycle that you will benefit from!

I knew at 10 I wanted to teach. I thought I was going to be a high school teacher but my fortunes pushed me to combine my love of martial arts and teaching together. Having spent thousands of hours teaching students and also in front of a video camera, I have had the chance to observe myself over and over. Every TIME I teach, I review in my head after how I can make it better.

 There is no limit to how far you can advance.
You should also take cues from those teachers you admire or like. We all have aspects of our teacher in our own teaching ability. We then add our own personalities to the mix
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Chicago: Is MMA tougher than the NFL?

Recently, I got into this ridiculous argument with a friend who I constantly get into pointless, farcical arguments with.  Our arguments usually fall into the football vs.

 some evil force (I usually defend the evil force). The latest one has been perpetuating for far too long. The argument is over the question: Which sport is tougher, NFL football or Mixed Martial Arts? He is a devout Chicago Bears fan and I think that he might get up every morning and bow to his Chicago Bears shrine, decorated with the glory days of Bears past.

 He proclaims to the Bears Gods, “I shall defend football against all of thy enemies. I shall shout football’s glory from the highest mountains for all to hear. I shall claim football’s supremacy to all that shall listen. Those that choose to disagree are worthless humans that deserve to die in a car fire.”


Well I could be blowing it a little out of proportion but he does constantly claim that NFL athletes are the greatest athletes in the world and that the game they play is the toughest. I disagreed about a month ago and told him that, in my opinion, MMA – particularly the elite fighters employed in the Ultimate Fighting Championship, compete in the toughest sport in the world. From there—the arguing commenced. I have constantly asked myself what the hell I am doing arguing a question of value over something as insignificant as this? Well, I have nothing better to do that’s why. Plus I enjoy getting all riled up over stuff like this—I clearly have a problem.
Hersh 234x300 Chicago: Is MMA tougher than the NFL?I don’t know everything but let me tell you one thing that I do know—it’s much tougher to fight in the UFC than play in the NFL. That’s right, I said it Chicago. Don’t take my word for it; a few former NFL players, who’ve trained or competed in MMA,

 have also reiterated my sentiment. “This is probably the hardest thing I’ve ever done; this was a very tough sport for me. Every muscle in your body is sore.” Herschel Walker stated after his professional MMA debut fight this past January. Marcus Jones,

a former NFL first round draft pick and currently famous for his stint on the tenth season of the MMA reality television series, The Ultimate Fighter, stated in an interview: “Fighting in the Octagon is more demanding on your body. The pain that you go through over a short period of time, all the training that you have to do for just 15 minutes of fighting, to me, that’s just incredibly difficult.”

It was even more entertaining to observe other former NFL players, along with Marcus Jones, who competed on the MMA reality show; Wes Shivers, Matt Mitrione, and Brendan Schaub dropping like flies during the first few workouts.

 They had their hands down at their sides, fighting the urge to quit, sucking for breath that couldn’t come in fast enough. All stated immediately that it was much more grueling than anything that they have ever done. And that includes playing in the NFL! Things got even more entertaining when the former ‘NFLers’ now mixed-martial artists got into the octagon to fight. Most were winded after the first 5 minute round. So if MMA is so inferior to NFL football, shouldn’t they be experienced enough to get conditioned adequately to make it through one lousy round?

What about Jared Allen?  Bears fans have seen him dominate the NFC Central for the past few seasons donning the Vikings purple and gold. jared 259x300 Chicago: Is MMA tougher than the NFL?
A brief history lesson on Mr. Allen: During an offseason with the Kansas City Chiefs he ran into Jay Glazer, a MMA and NFL reporter.

 Jay convinced him to train MMA with him in Arizona, where they both reside. After training Jiu-Jitsu, kickboxing, and wrestling at Glazer’s camp he lost 25 pounds of, as Allen refers to it, “bad weight.” He also went on to lead the NFL in sacks and then signed, at the time, the biggest deal ever for a defensive end with the Vikings.

The fact of the matter is that MMA fighters are world class athletes that are well versed in a multitude of martial arts along with wrestling, and boxing. There are no teammates to help you.  There are 5 minute stretches of massive exertion paired with a minute of rest.

 Proportionally that doesn’t compare to the 5 seconds of play with 40 seconds of rest in between that NFL players have the ‘luxury’ of. Also, you have some guy that isn’t trying to knock you down and take some ball away—he’s trying to knock your ass out, slam you down, pound your head into the mat with his fists, break your arm/leg, or choke you out. Any of these scenarios could happen at any moment and you need to be prepared for it all. Skill, not just God-given physique or speed, is required to be on top. Sounds kind of like playing offense and defense – do you have to do that in the NFL?
hers 300x299 Chicago: Is MMA tougher than the NFL? That’s just the night of the competition.  However, that’s assuming the MMA fighter will survive the training camp to get to the fight.  An MMA fighter will train for 6-8 hours per day on their cardio, ground attacks & defense, and standup fighting coupled with weight training and sparring.

 Now while you are doing these strenuous daily workouts you need to make sure that you will be at the right weight.  Usually you have to weigh exactly the weight limit the day before the fight and this usually requires a fighter to cut up to 20-25 pounds the day before the fight and put it on after the weigh-ins before the fight. This drastic cut in weight causes some fighters to collapse from exhaustion and dehydration trying to walk to the scale. This gives them about 24 hours to prepare to fight.
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A helmet would really come in handy right about now
To compare I will walk you through a typical week for an NFL Player. On Monday you show up, maybe have to lift some weights or see the trainer. On Tuesday, it’s a mandatory day off. Wednesday, you are in meetings all morning,

a walk-though wearing shorts, and then you study film of the walkthrough. Practice ensues afterwards with pads and light hitting. Hit the weight room once more and ice down, for the day is complete. Thursday is the same. Friday, practice ends early leaving more than enough time to prepare to tear up the clubs later that night. Saturday, you have a walkthrough of all the plays in sweatpants. Damn, I guess he’s right that does sounds so much tougher than training for 3 months solid for a MMA fight. No wonder J. Allen cut 25 pounds of “bad weight” training in MMA. nate 297x300 Chicago: Is MMA tougher than the NFL?
In conclusion, I am not trying to say that playing NFL football is a breeze by any stretch of the imagination. There are some beasts in the NFL and without a doubt, they hit like trucks. But to say that playing in the

NFL is tougher than MMA or to go even further to claim that they are not even close is insanity. If you think that MMA is a breeze, give it a shot. You may end up like NFL QB Matt Leinart, puking after 10 minutes of cage training according to Jay Glazer. Or ask Herschel Walker what he thinks now that he is a professional fighter. “I would rather go through NFL training camp because it’s a little easier.”  Hey I am not going to

argue with a Heisman Trophy winner and an NFL great like Mr. Walker, are you? So pay attention Chicago, as un-American as it sounds, it’s time that we all start to realize that Mixed Martial Arts is tougher than NFL football.
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Learn from short film on Bráulio *MMA*



You read all about ADCC superchamp Bráulio Estima’s MMA debut right here on
Now check out some of what went on behind the scenes in the lead-up to the battle, when the Gracie Barra professor mounted and tapped out Chris Holland with a vise-like arm-and-neck choke at their August 24 encounter at Titan Fighting Championship 24.

The athlete’s training, preparations and day-to-day life was documented by Ryan Loco, who assembled the footage to make the video below.

Check it out, and let us know what your favorite part is.

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Copa Pódio launches first-ever Couples Jiu-Jitsu Showdown


While penciling in the ten competitors to compete in the December Heavyweight Grand Prix, he promoters of the Copa Pódio Jiu-Jitsu tournament are drumming up some parallel match-ups.

The latest news, announced yesterday over the event’s Facebook page http://www.facebook.com/azouzsara is a double match-up pitting Jiu-Jitsu-fighter couples against each other.

The Couples Showdown involves two matches, each lasting six minutes. The first will be between men, and the second will be between women, and the women’s match picks up with the score carried over from the men’s match.

Should the men’s match end in a submission, the women will square off for a draw, should the girlfriend of the athlete who tapped out get comeuppance on her female counterpart.

One of the couples has already been picked. Lightweight world runner-up of 2011 Augusto Tanquinho and brown belt world champion Mackenzie Dern were invited to take part in the contest. The Copa Pódio organization will be announcing the second couple for this unprecedented match-up in the coming days.
Now GRACIEMAG.com readers can held out, by weighing in with their picks in the comments field below. Who do you feel should toe the line against Tanquinho and Mackenzie?

“These ideas add a more expansive dynamic to tournaments,” remarked Jeferson Maycá, the founder of Copa Pódio. “The Battle of the Cities, between fighters from different regions, and this Double Match-up between couples lets there be fighters from other weight groups,

not just the heavyweights in the GP. It’s worth keeping in mind that Guto Campos will be defending his Superchallenge title, and there will also be the superfight showdown between Leandro Lo and Felipe Preguiça. These are matched fights that guarantee excitement during the breaks between phases in the GP (the group, semifinal and final phase), holding us over till we find out who’s the big winner of the night among heavyweights.”
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Beginner BJJ & Grappling Tips

most people can throw some sort of punch which enables them to jump into stand up sparring and at least do something offensive in the beginning. When it comes to groundwork training things are quite different; most people don’t have a clue as to what to do. If the matted area that you grapple on was an ocean, a well trained BJJ student would be a shark and you, being new, can’t even swim yet. Now that’s Scary!
The good news is that there are a few things that you can incorporate into your rolling and overall training mindset that will bring things into the proper perspective, take some pressure off of you, make you a little harder to tap out and cause your training to be way more fun.
Here they are…

1. Guard Your Arms!
Extending your arms to push a rolling opponent away from you at the wrong time is one of the quickest ways to get yourself submitted. There are times when you should push with fully extended arms but in the beginning you unfortunately won’t know when it’s a safe time to do so. Therefore, It’s a good idea to try to keep both of your arms close to your body at all times, rarely extending them past a 90 degree angle. If you do get arm locked –you probably still will from time to time– try to recognize how your opponent caught you and the next time your find yourself in that same position, work even harder to protect your arms!

2. Guard your Neck!
It’s pretty much guaranteed that you will be choked into submission often when your first start rolling (sparring) with live opponents. Keep this from happening way too much by guarding your neck in several different ways; first don’t let them grab inside your collars with their hands if you’re training with a gi on; secondly avoid putting your head and neck underneath one of their armpits and you’ll avoid the dreaded guillotine choke; and third, when their arms are moving aggressively towards your neck area fight hard with both of your hands to stop them from locking in any sort of choke otherwise it’ll quickly be game over.
If you find yourself caught in a tight choke, remember it won’t hurt very much but it will render you unconscious in only a few seconds. Tap out and you can train again right away; don’t tap and when you awaken from unconsciousness, you’ll feel surprised that you’re lying on the mats in the gym instead of home in your bedroom.  Not a good feeling but don’t worry though it has happened to us all.

3. Use your Hips
Try your best not to just lie there while your opponent works you into some sort of choke, arm lock of leg lock. Your two legs can create an incredibly strong bridging motion when you plant them solidly on the floor and lift your hips up high. This bridging motion can destabilize your opponent forcing them to release certain holds in order to maintain their positioning and balance. A explosively strong bridge can also get you out of bad positions sometimes allowing you to move from the bottom position to the top. Keep your hips and entire body moving at all times and you’ll instantly make yourself much more difficult to control and submit.

4. Learn Your Escapes and Defenses
In terms of technique drilling, positional escapes can sometimes seem less exciting to practice than a flashy submission hold or a big takedown but they are exactly what you need to get good at when you first begin training on the ground. Pay attention to detail when learning escapes and spend a lot of time practicing them because it will pay off greatly by allowing you to survive a little longer with the tougher rolling partners.
If you have the money to invest in some private lessons with your instructor do it and use those lessons to hone your escape and submission defense skills. It’ll be well worth it.

5. Leave your Ego at the Door
This is the most important tip of all in my opinion. If you let getting tapped out, flipped, twisted, and squished by students –sometimes ones smaller and weaker than you—depress you and make you feel down, get ready because you’re going to be depressed for quite a while. These things are all part of the learning process and all who have achieved the upper belts in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu (or a high level of proficiency in another ground fighting style) were once in your shoes. Instead of looking at training like a competition, try to enjoy your workouts, the fact that you are able to get out there and do it and when you get tapped out simply jump back in there and get back at it. Train hard and you’ll soon feel more like the hammer instead of the nail. Being the hammer is so fun!

6. Drill, Drill and Drill some more…
Underestimate the importance of practicing a certain technique many times and you will pay the price; your movement will never be executed smooth enough or fast enough or with the necessary details needed for it to work against a strong resisting opponent.

When you learn a technical movement, be sure to practice it often within the next month or so. It’s better to repeat one technique hundreds of times within a month then to learn a new technique every day and practice each of them very little. With focused practice you will be great with a few techniques instead of knowing many techniques that you pretty much suck at. This will arm you with a strong technical foundation that you will be able to build upon in the future so be sure to drill, drill, and drill some more…

7. Spend Some Time Stretching!
When you are new to mixed martial arts you will definitely experience some soreness after rigorous training sessions. A lot of punching will tighten the arms, kicking with work the hamstrings and other leg muscles, and groundwork (BJJ or some other grappling art) will take a pretty good chunk of time for your body to get used to.

Most often an instructor will put you through a complete warm-up to prep you for the remainder of class but you will find a lot of benefit in supplementing your training with some additional stretching. Yoga classes are a great option or you could simply repeat, on your own time, the many warm-ups and flexibility improving exercises that you learn in your martial arts classes.

Improved flexibility will help prevent personal injury and will also allow you to perform certain manoeuvres that those with limited flexibility cannot. I can tell you from personal experience that facing a very flexible opponent on the ground is a pain in the butt; their guards are often difficult to pass, they are tough to tap out and often have a great ability to escape trouble.  Stretching early in the morning will also make your feel great and set a positive tone for the rest of your day so be sure to try it out.

8. Show up for Classes

As an instructor the most common question that I am asked is “How do I get good fast?” My answer is simple. I tell them to just keep showing up for class.
Over the years, my best students have been those people that rarely miss a training session, the type of student that trains so often that when they don’t show up, you assume something bad has happened. That’s the type of dedication it takes to really excel in any martial art and it’s extra important for MMA training because there is so much stuff to learn.

If there was a magic pill that could make people champions I’d sell it and become very, very rich but for now all I know is that you must put in the time to become a diamond on the mats. So remember, no excuses! Train anytime you get the chance, participate in seminars, book private lessons and immerse yourself in mixed martial arts training to the fullest and I guarantee that good things will follow.
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10 MMA Grappling Tips

Anybody who is interested in MMA, whether it be fighting or watching it, could use 10 MMA grappling tips to know how to take someone down, maybe to use while they are playing grab all. These tips will ensure that you kick off your MMA career with as much of an advantage as possible. They are also designed to keep you safe from harm that may be caused by an inadequate technique.

  1. When grappling in MMA, make sure you pace yourself so you don’t lose all of your energy. This is probably one of the most important things you can learn about MMA grappling. If you tire yourself out too quickly, you will be bound to make careless mistakes.
  2. As you learn moves for MMA grappling, make sure to learn the counter for the move. This will help you in two different ways. The first one being that you will become a “master” at this specific move by knowing both the offensive and defensive aspects of the move. It will also help you because you can know what to look out for when you try to use the move!
  3. Be sure to keep calm while grappling in any form. One of the quickest ways to make mistakes and forget everything you’ve learned is to freak out when someone gets you in a headlock. The best way to keep calm is to take yourself out of the situation and ask yourself: A) what move is being used on you and B) how to counter it.
  4. While MMA grappling, make sure that you learn how to control and maintain a constant breath. One of the first natural reactions to a stressful situation is to hold ones breath; it’s just how humans work. But if you focus on maintaining a constant breath, and more importantly, on avoiding holding your breath, you will be a much more efficient fighter.
  5. When grappling in any form, if you have exhausted all of your options, don’t be afraid to tap out. This may sound like a wimp move, but there are many athletes who wouldn’t tap even if they turned blue. But  whether you can trust your opponent to let you go without a tap so you don’t go unconscious is a gamble that you should not be willing to take
  6. Do some strength training on the benches for grappling momentum!
  7.  Being a gargantuan isn’t necessary, but make sure you are powerful enough that you can control yourself when pulling off your moves! Look into different strength training for different muscles in order to have the power to control your MMA grappling.
  8. When doing any kind of strength training to increase MMA grappling ability, do a few reps with heavy weights. It is common knowledge among weightlifters that doing 5-8 reps of a heavy weight is your best bet at getting strong. Doing anymore reps than that means you should go up in weight because if you don’t, you’ll just get ripped and not strong.
  9. Focus during everything you do. 
  10. This is an important tip because there are many people who will focus while they are fighting but not while training, or vice versa. This is a bad habi. You should always focus on what you are doing. Not practicing focus at all times could mess up and make it harder for you to catch your mistakes.
  11. Use your size to your advantage when grappling. If you are small, get around your opponent and dodge and be nimble. On the other hand, if you are bigger, be aggressive and manhandle your opponent!
  12. Don’t be afraid to train with people more advanced than you. They will teach you stuff by showing it to you in the ring, and this is also a great way to build up endurance when grappling!
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